Finding Life’s Balance 🙏😊

I got this Email the other day and i found it was incredibly enlightening and thought i would share it with you all.. Hope this finds you well..🙏

Do you feel like the weight of responsibility is keeping you grounded? Or the sheer drag of life is forcing on the brakes?

Do you find it hard to muster the requisite lift and thrust to overcome these forces in life?

Of course, we’ve all been there. We’ve all had those days where everything has felt like one big drag, where the simple act of getting out of bed has felt like this herculean task.

To be honest, that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling recently. It got me thinking about this idea of life balance and how, exactly, one is supposed to find it? 

Then something struck me. I thought, “Of course! Balance isn’t something you find. It is something you have to maintain – like a tightrope walker!”

Three ideas immediately sprung to mind:

1. Don’t carry too much weight.

2. Go at a steady pace.

3. Don’t stop moving.

Then, as soon as I wrote these thoughts down, I had another brain wave. 

It occurred to me that the same laws govern an aeroplane in flight. Then it occurred to me that the laws of aerodynamics might be able to teach us how to maintain balance in our own lives. 

The Four Forces of Flight

To give you a quick lesson in aerodynamics, an aeroplane flies because of something known as the four forces of flight. Those four forces are thrust, lift, drag and weight.

Of course thrust counteracts drag, whereas lift counteracts weight.

Now, if lift and thrust are greater than weight and drag, your aeroplane will climb. If they are less, it will descend. If they are balanced well, then, Bob’s your uncle. 

Here’s an excellent diagram:

Created on Canva

So, you ask, what on earth do these forces have to do with me?

Well, everything.

Let me explain.

The Four Forces of Living

To rename the four forces of flight, we can say that the four forces of living are Health, Purpose, Life & Responsibility. 

Just like an aeroplane, these forces counteract one another. Health (Thrust) counteracts Life (Drag), whereas Purpose (Lift) counteracts Responsibility (Weight).

Instead of an aeroplane, of course, it’s you that’s stuck in the middle.

Here’s another excellent diagram:

Created on Canva

Now, we can say that we’re out of balance when the forces of life and responsibility are much greater than the other two.

This usually happens for one of two reasons.

The first comes are from trying to avoid drag and weight altogether, preventing you from getting airborne in the first place (or out of bed). At the other end of the balance scales are those who carry far more than they’re capable of, causing them to stall.

From experience, I believe the latter is a far better place to be. The way I see it, having too much on your plate is a good thing. It means your life is already filled with purpose and meaning. 

That’s half the battle.

Once you’re off the ground (which is the hardest part) balance becomes a question of priorities. Understanding exactly what we should pay attention to and what we should let go of.

So, let’s tackle this question from the ground up.

Increasing Thrust

As already stated, to climb, lift and thrust must be greater than drag and weight. But which should come first? Lift or thrust?

This is an important question. 

Theoretically, with enough thrust, you can climb without generating any lift  —  like a rocket-ship! It’s impossible to get off the ground without it. That isn’t true of lift. Lift needs thrust to get off the ground.

So it is with you. 

There is nothing more vital than your health. It has to be at the top of your value hierarchy. You cannot look after others without first looking after yourself. It’s not selfish to prioritise your health. If anything, it’s selfish not to prioritise it. 

4 things to think about.

Sleep (8 hours is good)

Diet (Eat your vegetables)

Exercise (Move)

Mental health (Talk to someone)

Excellent advice I’m sure you’ll agree.

Let’s move on.

Generating Lift

While looking after your health is most important, the truth is most of us aren’t rocket-ships (except for my children). We need lift as well. This is where an understanding of your personal values is important. Once again, I think it helps to start from the ground up.

Here’s a 5 step guide I came up with at 40’000ft.

1. Remain Grounded

Wherever you are in life, it’s essential to remain grounded. After all, we only ever live in the here and now. To constantly wish you had arrived at your destination is to miss the part we call life – that would be a far greater tragedy than not making your destination.

The question is how?

In a word, acceptance. I like to think of radical acceptance in terms of 3 things:

• Present moment awareness (Hello mindfulness)

• Universal compassion (Yes, that includes yourself)

• Gratitude (This is something you must practice)

Got it? Good.

Now that your feet are firmly planted on the ground, you can start to think about pitching skyward.

2. Build a Moral Compass

This is something you should prioritise long before you start setting goals. I suggest you design your own moral compass by listing out a set of values that mean the most to you, and then listing those in order of personal significance.

I then suggest you think about the identity you want to form based on your set of particular values. Following that, you want to build habits that reinforce this identity. (for example, a loving father and husband who makes time for his family every day, a person who prioritises his own health by meditating and exercising every day, a person who writes every day).

Once you’ve done that, you can start thinking about the destination by setting some short and long-term goals. Just keep in mind that it’s far more important to embody the person you wish to be today than it is to achieve anything in the long run.

After all, shit happens, and rarely if ever, in this life, do we end up at the destination we had in mind.

3. Remove Unnecessary Baggage

Often the problem many of us have is carrying around baggage we really shouldn’t. Usually, that baggage is other people’s bullshit that has found its way into our minds. Once again, being clear about your values is essential.

A few more ideas. 

Getting a handle on your smartphone addiction can be a big help (I’m working on it). Living a simple life. Forming close relationships instead of lots of superficial ones. Surrounding yourself with the people you love and trust. 

Maybe don’t let a drunk, abusive passenger onto your aeroplane. 

Just a thought.

4. Change Your Perspective. 

The weight of responsibility is a hefty burden for many. Some of us are made to suck lemons through no fault of our own. Still, I do believe the way we look at our responsibilities is crucial. Often the difference between responsibility and purpose is a matter of perspective.

A powerful way to change your perspective is by giving meaning to your pain. If your battle is with mental health, then use that as motivation to help others suffering in the same way. This really will turn your demons into angels.

5. Make Time for the Things You Love

Last one before I bring this bird home. 

As part of harmonious life, it’s very important to make time for the things you love. Whether that’s reading, playing video games, or socialising… Don’t neglect fun. Don’t neglect joy. Don’t neglect being silly and spontaneous. Don’t neglect your sense of adventure. Try new restaurants, dance in the rain, fart, and laugh about it.

Occasionally say fuck it and just go with the flow. You definitely need that.

Maintaining Level Flight.

Here’s where I contradict myself.

Balance is something you have to maintain, yes. Unlike a tightrope walker however, it isn’t something you should be struggling to maintain. It shouldn’t feel like everything has a survival level threat attached to it. If it does, that’s a probably a sign you need to let go of the controls.

When you do encounter turbulence you’re not meant to fight it. You’re meant to take a seat and ride it out, then, ever so gently, guide yourself back to your desired level and track. 

If you really do feel like you’re stalling, there is only one thing for it. You must push the nose down to regain lift. Don’t, whatever you do, keep pitching up in desperation. Heed the warning signs and come down back to earth.

Beyond that, I do believe that balance is a state of mind. One that is firmly grounded in the present moment. It is about going with the flow and dissolving the boundaries separating work from play, purpose from responsibility and even, life from death.

It’s important to have a destination in mind, but it’s essential we don’t get hung up on it. As cliche as it is to say, life is about the journey. Take care of yourself today. Tackle your most pressing responsibilities today. Get rid of any unnecessary baggage. After that, learn to go with the flow and enjoy it.

If you can, then you really will fly free.

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